You’re too quick to commit. A willingness to immediately commit body, mind and soul to the first few guys who pay attention to you after a breakup is classic rebound-recharge behavior. You are using their attention to make yourself feel better.

Take out takes on new meaning. If you take out your frustrations and anger on every man who takes you out and find you are making every new guy pay for your ex’s crimes, you are just not ready to be dating.

2. Trusting Others. Bad Baggage Emotion: I am afraid of falling for the wrong guy again.
Good Luggage Replacement: I will date with the idea of building friendships first.

3. Desperation. Bad Baggage Emotion: I’ll do what it takes to please a guy so that I won’t get dumped.
Good Luggage Replacement: I’ll take my time to weed out the men who just want to sleep with anybody and narrow the group down to men who wait because they are truly interested.

4. Oversensitivity. Bad Baggage Emotion: If I see one thing that brings up memories of an ex, I’m outta there..
Good Luggage Replacement: I will keep my eyes and ears open for his ideas on things and judge him on the things that are vital (honesty, loyalty, respect and the ability to make me a priority) not comparisons.

5. Resignation. Bad Baggage Emotion: If I don’t expect too much, I will not get hurt again.
Good Luggage Replacement: If I expect to get what I’m prepared to give, I won’t get hurt.

6. Insecurity. Bad Baggage Emotion: I’m not pretty/thin/smart enough to be choosy.
Good Luggage Replacement: I deserve someone who is worth all the love, support, caring and kindness I have to offer.

Being cell bound. He’s in the middle of a funny story when your phone rings. It’s your mom, and you stay on for a while arguing about why you never call. ou hang up, he continues, your phone rings again. After a few of those, he stops trying to talk; you’re angry that he’s so quiet. The conversation? Spoiled and silent until he says, “Check please.”

Being rude to staff. You “whatevered” the waiter. When the guy behind the counter politely asks you to repeat your order, you call him incompetent. Your date not only cringes – he apologizes for you, especially if he’s a regular. You get highly offended and accuse him of taking sides; embarrassed and ticked off, he mutters “bitch” just loud enough for you to answer back. The evening? Spoiled, and so will your reputation amongst anyone he knows.

Having eating issues. He takes you to his favorite Italian restaurant (“the best eggplant parm in the city!”) and you order salad, everything on the side. Or you order several of everything, barely touch it, and doggy-bag the rest for later. He’s either completely ticked off that you had no interest in sharing and appreciating his taste in food or wonders if you just used him for a week’s worth of groceries. He asks probing questions about your eating habits; you get uncomfortable and defensive. Food spoiler? Not a second date getter!